Atheist can't we be a bit more loving and to show Christians we aren't the monsters they think we are?

I agree. Sometimes I wonder if I'm being a troll and don't even realize it. I do try to answer/ask questions without being rude or condescending (at least to the serious questions anyways). I've posted some answers that I regret, and a couple of rude comments along the way; but in the end, I simply try to answer a question the best I can. That's all I can hope to do, I suppose.